The 90/10 Principle (Stephen Covey)

10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean?

We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.

How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

Let's use an example. You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react.You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.

She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work.

You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.

Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is " D".

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.

Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both
ended different.

Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off)
Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive? Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job. The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it.

The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.

The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.

It CAN change your life!!!

Pampanga Trip

Our Pampanga Visit before we left for Singapore.

In the picture were Bea, Jacob and Anton

Singapore Family Picture

Our Singapore Family picture...

Carmela's Cooking

On her last day as OFW in Singapore...

She's cooking one of Jacob's favorite...Spaghetti with Marinara sauce (without any Dairy Products)

UNTIRING LOVE

UNTIRING LOVE

In order to renovate the house, someone in Japan tears open the wall.

Japanese houses normally have a hollow space between the wooden walls.
When tearing down the walls, he found that there was a lizard stuck there because a nail from outside hammered into one of its feet. He
sees this, feels pity, and at the same time curious, as when he checked the nail, it was nailed 10 years ago when the house was first built.

What happened?

The lizard has survived in such position for 10 years! In a dark wall partition for 10 years without moving, it is impossible and mind boggling. Then he wondered how this lizard survived for 10 years without moving a single step--since its foot was nailed!

So he stopped his work and observed the lizard, what it has been doing, and what and how it has been eating. Later, not knowing from where it came, appears another lizard, with food in its mouth.

Ahh! He was stunned and touched deeply. For the lizard that was stuck by nail, another lizard has been feeding it for the past 10 years...

Such love, such a beautiful love! Such love happened even with this tiny creature ... What can love do? It can do wonders! Love can do miracles!
Imagine? it has been doing that untiringly for 10 long years, without
giving up hope on its partner.

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This might not be a true story as lizards' lifespan is only 2-3 years.

July 20, 2009

Today is Jacob's 5th birthday

This was taken 2 days ago. He is wearing his birthday suit:
a shoebox as a hat, plastic arrow as his sword and a pingpong racquet as his shield.

Optical Illusion

The eye can really trick the brain...

I just realized that if you close one of your eye, the circles seems to be moving slower compared to looking to the picture with both eyes open...

Gupitan time!

Gupitan time!

A day before Jacob goes to school after a 1 month long break.

He is currently in K1.

George Carlin

A Message by George Carlin:

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers,

wider Freeways , but narrower viewpoints.

We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less.

We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time.

We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values.

We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We've learned how to make a living, but not a life.

We've added years to life not life to years.

We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space.

We've done larger things, but not better things.

We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul.

We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice.

We write more, but learn less.

We plan more, but accomplish less.

We've learned to rush, but not to wait.

We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships.

These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes.

These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill.

It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom.

A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete...

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side..

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent..

Remember, to say, 'I love you' to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it.

A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak!

And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away. George Carlin

Fiesta 2009

San Antonio Mexico Pampanga

Fiesta 2009

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More pictures here: http://picasaweb.google.com/noel.manalang/Fiesta2009#

Tsinelas ni Tatang

Eto ang ang tatak Dragon na tsinelas ni Tatang.

Nueva Ecija - May 2009

Family picture

Mga Tito, Tita, Lola at Lolo ni Jacob. Marami pang di kasaali sa picture...hanapin ko yung ibang

Nueva Ecija 2009

This was taken during our vacation in Nueva Ecija Philippines.

Atin Ku Pung Singsing

ATIN CU PUNG SINGSING

Atin cu pung singsing

Metung yang timpukan

Amana que iti quing Indung ibatan

Sangkan queng sininup

Quiñg metung a caban

Meuala ya iti, ecu camalayan
Ing sucal ning lub cuSusucdul qñg banua

Picurus cung gamatBabo ning lamesa

Ninu mang manaquit

Quiñg singsing cung mana

Calulung pusu cu

Manguinu ya ceca

Sunflower

One of the last pictures taken by my EOS 400D. This was a sunflower in University of the Philippines. Every year ay nagtatanim sila ng Sunflower, saktong mamumulaklak ang mga ito sa Graduation Day.

I lost something...again

This time it is my EOS 400D camera, Sigma 18-200 lens and my Sony Ericsson phone. Naiwan namin sa Cebu Pacific flight papuntang Singapore. Syempre di na sinoli nung nakapulot yung mga ito pero alam naming nasa pinas yung mga items ngayon dahil tinawagan namin yung phone at nag ring nung unang tawag, pagkatapos ay unreachable na. Malas siguro talaga kapag umuuwi kami sa Pilipinas, palaging may nawawala...

So kung mayroong nagbebenta sa inyo ng camera na may serial number na
1130626779, huwag nyong bilhin dahil ito po ay illegal..

36 years old...

Birthday ko na naman...sobrang bilis ng panahon. Di namamalayan lumipas na naman ang isang taon. Ilang blogs pa lang ang nakaraan eh heto na naman...

Kinder 1 na si Jacob, umabot na ng 80 kg si Nanay, sana this year e seryosohin nya na ang exercise :)

Noong medyo bata pa kami...

This was Olive back in 2003












This was me back in 1994...

Ima

You will always be remembered...

Sketches

For your viewing pleasure...

Family Portrait

Sa Singapore Zoo yata ito...kuha ni Kuya Erwin (siguro)

Kuya Mario & Glenn in Singapore

This was taken during Kuya Mario (with Joybee and Enzo) & Glenn's visit in Singapore - February 16-25, 2009

This was in Kuya Erwin's house in Potong Pasir

More pictures here..

Big Earlobes Part II

Kuha ni Jacob sa Zoo ulit, na-renew din namin yung membership namin sa wakas...

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More pictures here:http://picasaweb.google.com/noel.manalang/NewSingaporeZoo#

Jacob's first day in school 2009

Unang araw (2009) ni Jacob na pumasok sa schoool...as usual umiiyak pa rin bago umalis nag bahay.

Ayaw pumasok sa eskwelahan.

Mask of Zorro

Taken from Nanay's Nikon Coolpix...Jacob does not know how to do this trick yet, he can't rotate his hands properly...

Another trip to the hospital

Ito yung rubber na nilagay ni Jacob sa kanyang ilong...pagkapasok ay ayaw nang matanggal. Samakatuwid e sa ospital na naman ang bagsak. Kalahating araw din kami sa emergency room at kailangang patulugin si Jacob habang tinatanggal ng doktor, baka kasi sya maglikot e lalong pumasok at mapunta sa lungs yung rubber.

Life is Great Photo Competition

This picture won a prize (cash and a camera) in the Great Eastern "Life is Great" Photo competition 2008.

Olive is now using the camera...

Mga lola at lolo ni Jacob

Kuha noong May 4, 2008 - birthday ni Lola Nanay sa Pampanga

Graduation Concert ni Jacob

Graduation Party ni Jacob

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click here for more pictures:

http://picasaweb.google.com/noel.manalang/GraduationConcert#

Interview ni Nanay

Habang kami ay naghihintay sa Kid's Corner ng Shangri la Sentosa